By: Edward Pinilla
Although it seems difficult to accept, our inner world is made several characters that determine the behavior. Ego, Super ego, higher self and inner child. When these come into conflict, alterations in the person, creating difficulties, pain and even disease.
We will focus on the inner child, because this is the character who most influence over others. Studies have shown that the 0 to 6 years is 85% of personality, this means that this is the age at which the child is learning, absorbing everything that comes from abroad. Positive or negative, is forever etched in your mind, determining their destiny as an adult.
Life is like a movie, depending on what we experienced in childhood play on our mental screen adults, these childhood events, represented in pain, love, humor, adventure, tragedy, drama, conflict, poverty or disease.
If your relationship with your parents was aggression, punishment or abuse, relationships with others be submissive, fear, rebellion and conflict. If, on the other hand you had a good relationship with your parents, where there was respect and love, there will be acceptance, tolerance, interaction and self-esteem.
The human mind has several stages of evolution. The first is the PANIC - DEPRESSIVE , imagine a baby several months, hungry, unsatisfied desire, the mother gives milk bottle or breast and stops crying, he was satisfied his desire. An adult who did not exceed this level, accountable to an unfulfilled desire to "violence" very common in our society that seeks to resolve all by force.
The second stage is the LIABILITIES - DEPENDENT , follow the example of the baby, when it reaches the age of 3 or 4 years, this child, pulled a gun on the floor or nagging about something you want and not is given. Mom punishes him, upon which the infant reacts with feeling crying, mom gives him compassion and pampering is about delivering what he screamed. An adult who follows this stage and not exceeded, will respond to any difficult situation "unfortunate." This behavior is usually handling, dependency, lack of affect and low self esteem, in this period of evolution lie who threaten their lives.
The third state is PERFECTIONIST - EFFICIENT, here lie those for whom the world is moving under the rules, when something does not go as they wanted, their reactions will be conflict. A perfectionist always have trouble because they pretend that others behave as he or she, and others seek to impose their way of life that they believe is the best there is. Some rules are thus exceed their leads to be too moralistic or fanatics.
These first three states are characterized because they act this way people are manipulative, conflicting excessively demanding, dependent and its behavior manifest low self-esteem.
The fourth level of learning is the EFFECTIVE than efficient, which makes things in exchange for something. The efficient, is master of his actions, demand the respect for self manifested towards others. Always look for our own good, has high self-esteem, goals and claimed to be the best at everything, is independent and assertive in their decisions. Understand that everything good has a price change and is willing to pay, always expecting the best of life.
These behaviors are related to the way parents treat their children at home. Most conflicts we humans are due to inheritance Mom and Dad left us in the first years of life.
The next chapter will reveal a simple formula to heal your inner child.
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